Squirting remains a topic of scientific debate, particularly around where the fluid originates. Some experts believe it’s urine mixed with other fluids from the bladder, while others argue it’s produced by the Skene’s glands (often called the female prostate). A 2023 study in *The Journal of Sex Research* found that more than half of women surveyed had experienced squirting, though the volume and intensity vary widely. Importantly, squirting doesn’t happen with every orgasm—and it’s not a marker of a 'better' or 'more real' climax.
The sensation itself can range from barely noticeable to intensely pleasurable. Dr. Madeleine Castellanos, a sex therapist, notes that the urethra is packed with nerve endings, which may explain why some people find the experience particularly powerful. The fluid itself is typically clear or milky and differs in composition from urine, though it may contain trace amounts.
"Squirting isn’t always a dramatic gush—it might be a drip, dribble, or barely noticeable." —Jess O’Reilly, PhD
Why This Matters
Myths about squirting—like the idea that it’s a porn-exclusive fantasy or a sign of superior sexual prowess—can create unnecessary pressure. Understanding that squirting is simply one variation of orgasm helps normalize diverse sexual experiences. For some, exploring it can be fun and fulfilling; for others, it’s irrelevant to their pleasure.
Open conversations about squirting also combat shame. Many people worry about the mess or fear judgment from partners. Sex educators emphasize that bodily fluids are normal during sex, and preparations (like towels or waterproof blankets) can make the experience more comfortable.
What You Can Do
If you’re curious about squirting, start by prioritizing relaxation and arousal. Stress or performance anxiety can inhibit orgasm of any kind. Hydration may help (though evidence is anecdotal), and G-spot stimulation—via fingers, toys, or a partner—is often key. Sexologist Jess O’Reilly suggests experimenting solo first to understand your body’s responses without pressure.
Communicate with partners if you’re exploring together. Lay down towels or a washable blanket to ease concerns about mess. Remember: squirting isn’t a goal, just one possible outcome of pleasure. If it doesn’t happen, that doesn’t mean your orgasms are less valid.
