The YouGov poll of nearly 6,000 Brits found a significant gap in acceptance: while 53% of straight men were open to dating bisexual women, only 19% of straight women said the same about bisexual men. This aligns with broader studies showing bi men face unique stigma, often perceived as 'actually gay' or 'confused.' Notably, 66% of straight women outright rejected dating bi men, compared to 35% of straight men rejecting bi women.
The reasons behind this bias reveal persistent stereotypes. About 17% of straight women and 16% of straight men wrongly assumed bisexual people are more likely to cheat. Others cited discomfort with same-sex experiences or moral objections, with 10% of straight men calling bisexuality 'wrong.' Some respondents even conflated bisexuality with polyamory or being transgender, illustrating widespread misconceptions.
Age also played a role: older straight, gay, and lesbian respondents were less willing to date bisexual people than younger demographics. This suggests generational shifts in attitudes, though progress is uneven. As YouGov's Matthew Smith noted, assumptions about bisexuality being 'complicated' or a 'phase' persist, despite growing LGBTQ+ visibility.
9% of straight women cited disgust towards men with same-sex experiences, highlighting lingering stigma around male bisexuality.
Why This Matters
These biases have real consequences for bisexual men's mental health and dating options. Studies link bi erasure—the denial of bisexuality as valid—to higher rates of depression and anxiety. When straight women reject bi men based on stereotypes, it reinforces harmful narratives that male bisexuality is inherently predatory or deceitful. This can isolate bi men in both queer and straight spaces.
The disparity also reflects gendered double standards. Bi women are often fetishized by straight men, while bi men face rejection rooted in homophobia. Both dynamics reduce bisexual people to stereotypes rather than individuals. Addressing these biases is key to fostering inclusive relationships where authenticity—not assumptions—shapes connections.
What You Can Do
Challenge stereotypes by educating yourself. Bisexuality isn't linked to infidelity (research shows no difference in cheating rates by orientation). If you're hesitant about dating a bi person, ask yourself why—are you projecting myths? Resources like the Bisexual Resource Center (biresource.org) debunk common myths with evidence.
Advocate for visibility. Share stories of healthy bi/straight relationships, and call out biphobia when you see it. If you're dating a bi partner, communicate openly about needs without assuming their orientation dictates your relationship structure. Everyone deserves respect, not snap judgments.
